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Transition relationships what are they?

Updated: Feb 5, 2023

“Sometimes you meet someone, and it’s so clear that the two of you, on some level belong together. As lovers, or as friends, or as family, or as something entirely different. You just work, whether you understand one another or you’re in love or you’re partners in crime. You meet these people throughout your life, out of nowhere, under the strangest circumstances, and they help you feel alive. I don’t know if that makes me believe in coincidence, or fate, or sheer blind luck, but it definitely makes me believe in something.” —Unknown

I  find that this subject comes up in most of my mentoring, coaching and spiritual counselling sessions and is a question which when clarified often brings understanding and the first step towards moving forward.

Yesterday I found myself discussing this with a student who had had to come to terms with a close friend passing in sudden circumstances.

We got into a conversation about relationships and why they come to an end. I started to explain about spiritual transition relationships.

This is not the relationships were you rebound quickly into a new one with someone completely different from the last relationships you had and use this relationship as a kind of bridge or to bridge the gap - that's not spiritual or good for your soul.

I explained that spiritual transition relationships were relationships whereby we learn, grow and develop, that these people are there as part of out learning process. these relationships can be brief and for a matter of minutes or long over years, it all depends when and how we learn the lesson which we need to learn to enable us to progress.

Once the lesson is learnt we start to drift away from each other even sometimes, to the extent that we find ourselves sabotaging the relationship as our souls and inner being knows its time to move on and is trying to break free.

If we don't move on we are not only blocking our growth but that of the other person also, who also needs to find the next person with whom to learn and to teach.

I told the student that when I was doing my social work training the majority of relationships grew apart due to the changes people made whilst on the training, they weren't the same people any more, not the people who their partners had first met. that's not to say this happens with all training, far from it, but profound development can open doors to a new persona and a new awareness, sometimes the people around us embrace this, sometimes they don't wish to and its time for them to move on also.

How many friends have you already passed by in your life, feeling that you have outgrown them or just that you had nothing in common any more?

I once knew a beautiful spiritual couple who worked together for many years supporting and guiding others, they were together for 40 odd years and had an amazing connection, then one day out of the blue the lady came and said her partner had left, walked away, that he had said it had been building for a while but that he had to go. She was extremely calm, accepting and happy about it, saying she realised she couldn't hold him back he needed to move on to where  he could grow as a person and that she would as well. What is it they say...

'if you love them let them go..'

Interesting addition to this subject is the power and effect of karmic relationships;

Your Past Lives - Relationships Then And Now

5 Ways To Heal Karma From Past Life Relationships

Sharon Anne Klingler


 
 
 

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